I love my son to death, but I need a break from him and that’s ok.
I’m a new mom. My son only 5 months old. I spend all day caring for him and when I’m not, I’m thinking about him. I make sure that he has everything he needs and that he is always happy. When he has bad days I do my best to make sure that he is comfortable. He doesn’t cry much. He mainly fusses when he is hungry or tired. Since his birth I have spent EVERYDAY giving him my attention so that I could make sure he is well taken care of.
You know what? I need a break and that’s ok! When I first started feeling like this I felt bad. How could I want a break from my son. I carried him for 9 months. I labored for 24 hours waiting to meet him. I created him. I am his is main caretaker. Everyday he looks to ME to take care of his needs. Does wanting a break make me a bad mother?
I know there are many mothers out there that feel the same. I want you to know that you are not alone. Also there is no reason for you to feel bad and to feel any guilt.
You are your own person. You are more than just a mother. It is important for you to take care of yourself. Letting these feeling continue can cause you to feel resentment or other negative feeling towards your child. It’s ok if you take a day out of the week or out of the month to do something for yourself. Even if you can’t take a whole day, just an hour or even a few minutes is ok.
Here are a few simple things you can do:
Have some one watch you child
If you can, have someone else watch your child. You don’t even have to go anywhere. Just have them come over while you take sometime to yourself.
Take a trip to store by yourself
Or wherever it is that you want/need to go. Even if it just five minutes that you’re gone. It’s five minutes that you have to yourself.
While your little one is taking a nap take a long bubble bath, soak your feet in some warm water, or paint your nails. Do something that’s going to make you feel better about yourself.
Go for a walk
Fresh air can do wonders when your feeling down. So bundle up, put your baby in a carrier or the stroller, and take a short walk around the neighborhood.
Whether it’s help around the house or talking to your doctor about possible postpartum depression. There is nothing wrong with asking for help.
I think it’s important to remember that even if being a mother is your most important job, sometimes we have to put our needs first. Making sure that you are taken care of will ensure that you can be the best possible parent to your child.